My massage team has been massaging SMB for almost 3 years and this is the first time I got to meet and massage him. He was SO nice and when he walked into the massage room he was so full of praise, saying so many kind things, like "you got a great team, you run a tight ship, all of your girls have been terrific, I feel so much better on tour with them massaging me, etc.

He told me SO many amazing stories during his two hour massage- told me about hanging out with Hendrix and headlining for the Grateful Dead (the dead opened, then SMB played then Jimi- wow!) he also played a show once in Minnesota where Alice Cooper opened for them and said it was one of Alice's first show and how the crowd didn't know how to react with Alice. He just ate dinner the other night with Alice and told me just for fun they traded watches (they both collect them). He is just a nice guy, wow. 

The show was, to my surprise, 90% BLUES!! He played Come On (which in my opinion was made famous by Jimi Hendrix) and many other great blues tunes- naturally he played his hits but you can tell he would just enjoy playing blues all night :)

Check out his web site: http://www.stevemillerband.com/

SOME of Steve's guitars on the side of the stage. There were so many I couldn't fit them all into one picture. He is the only guitarist in the band fyi

SMB in action

SMB tour dates:

Book me at: info@drdot.com and put "PAM/BOSTON" in the subject line please :)

Hi my name is Pam. I am a licensed Massage Therapist trained in a spa modalities and a licensed Physical Therapist. I was born and raised and Cape Cod and am thrilled to be part of the Dr. Dot’s team servicing from Boston to the Cape and Islands.

My medical background is helpful in giving treatments that not only pamper my clients, but benefit musculoskeletal issues. My experience has taught me that the true healing that occurs with my clients, is through the power of touch and not always the clinical or scientific knowledge. This is what lead me to massage.

The various techniques I use in my work have proven very effective in reducing pain and providing clients with luxurious wellness. I love to live spur of the moment.....and learning something new each day keeps me motivated. I like to do deep work without too much pain, and finish up with a memorable scalp massage. I always let the client lead the way to an enjoyable session.

 from like 1997 ^ taken in Berlin

It has been a long time since I have massaged Steven (Aerosmith ) Tyler, so it was GREAT seeing him again and massage him again. He is by far one of my favorites to work on. He is so positive and fun, I am pretty sure anyone who knows him, loves him. His girlfriend Erin got a massage the next day too. They were both VERY pleased with their massages, so I have been told over and over again by his assistant. 

Steven insisted on tying this scarf on me himself for the picture. He said "I know how to do scarves"  haha. He is so fun! He lives ROCK and ROLL. Some stars dress and act one way on stage and act differently off the stage. With Steven, it's like this, he is exactly like he appears to be, a free spirit with a wild way about him, it's not an act, he is that way. So fucking cool!

Steve said he got those necklaces and beads in Maui. The Turquoise beads, he said, are over 3,000 years old. The tight teeth necklace is made from Raccoon teeth

Steve says this ring has been around the world twice in a shuttle (his friend is an astronaut and brings his ring with him)

Mr. Tyler and his little torch	He uses this to ignite special coals he got in Dubai. The coals go under incense he got there, and they smell delicious.

My friend Bri, who does security for Steven, also protected Evil Knievel for more than 15 years. SUPER nice, but fierce man. 

Book me: info@drdot.com and put "Linda/Detroit" in the subject line please :)

My name is Linda and I am a Michigan girl.  I studied massage at the Ann Arbor Institute  of massage therapy.  
I learned lots of tricks of the trade but the big results massage are Neuromuscular therapy and Myofascial therapy.

If you have muscles that need attention then lets get in there and work it out!
People love to feel the music so why not feel the massage.
I cant help but love what Dr. Dot has created by bringing the two together.
I am thrilled to be a part of the historical Dr. Dot team.
Now get on the table please!!

Joanna and I ^

Halloween 2009 in NYC at Iggy's karaoke bar upper East Side.

Joanna was dressed as Anna Nicole Smith and if you look carefully you will see her prop, Anna's dog Sugar Pie. I was obviously a French Maid (was going to be a gory one but had no time to do the gore make up as I was SWAMPED with work). I worked until 1am setting up the Depeche Mode tour for massages (Dot Bots all lined up). 

 I had a BLAST singing last night, but sang songs I knew the crowd would love rather than singing the ones I really wanted to try for the first time (it was PACKED and crowed wanted greatest hits sort of thing). I did Whole Lotta Love, I Feel Good, I just want to make love to you (Etta James), Dirty Deeds (done dirt cheap) - and another that I can't remember. Hmmmmm. I only had ONE wine spritzer, totally being a good girl (still off coffee too :)

Well, not much time to write as I have to get up early. Guess I will return to Berlin end of this month, I miss my friends. Torn between two lovers (Berlin and NYC! :)

"Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever." Ghandi

If you go to www.perezhilton.com now and scroll back one page, you will see it. His blog entry called "Trick or Tweet!
Filed under: ADoration"

I feel honored and silly for caring about it..

I sent him that pic a year ago I think.. better late than never 

 You simply have to read about this band to understand:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dethklok

 Bassist Bryan Beller and his wife Kira are friends of mine. Bryan and Mike, below are playing with Dethklok currently. It was a very unique experience for me to see this show. Not used to that kind of music (extremely hard rock, almost like death metal I guess) but the animation they show during their concert was so bizarre. Words fail me. Probably because it is 10 am and I am STILL up. I think I have strep throat :( FUCK!! Gotta get to bed. Tour dates below

x

 Frank Zappa alum and friend, Mike Keneally . I haven't seen him in person since I was on the 1988 Frank Zappa tour! We have kept in touch online, but it was GREAT to see him again. SUPER nice guy, AMAZING guitarist. 

Appearing with Mastodon

METALOCALYPSE: DETHKLOKDETHKLOK:

Oct 30 2009  Hammerstein Ballroom      New York, NY

Oct 31 2009  Patriot Center                  Fairfax, VA            
Nov 1 2009   Electric Factory              Philadelphia, PA            
Nov 03 2009 NorVa   Norfolk, VA

Nov 04 2009 Fillmore    Charlotte, NC
Nov 5 2009  The Tabernacle            Atlanta, GA          
Nov 6 2009  House Of Blues                North Myrtle Beach, SC            
Nov 7 2009  Hard Rock Cafe / Hard Rock Live       Orlando, FL            
Nov 8 2009  Pompano Beach Amphitheatre        Pompano Beach, FL            
Nov 11 2009  House Of Blues                Dallas, TX          
Nov 12 2009  Verizon Wireless Theater            Houston, TX            
Nov 13 2009  Austin Music Hall               Austin, TX            
Nov 14 2009  Brady Theater                  Tulsa, OK  
Nov 16 2009  Pan American Center           Las Cruces, NM  
Nov 17 2009  Mesa Amphitheatre                      Mesa, AZ  
Nov 18 2009  House Of Blues                Las Vegas, NV            
Nov 19 2009  Hollywood Palladium      Hollywood, CA

Nov 20 2009 Hollywood Palladium   Hollywood, CA

Nov 21 2009 Event Ctr @ San Jose State   San Jose, CA

 

 Napoleon (aka Napi) called me last night from Amsterdam, told me he is there recording with Zappa alum George Duke. Asked me to come over if I was in Berlin, but I am not I am in NYC, so I can't massage those guys even though I would love to be there. Can't be everywhere at once, innit? He also mentioned doing press for the upcoming release of his cd:

An historical CD will be released in December 2009 entitled “This is What Frank Zappa Heard - Just in Case You Were Wondering - Live at the Red Noodle in Waikiki, Hawaii”.

     On August 8th, 1973, Frank Zappa was alerted by his road manager, Marty Perellis, that an incredible band with an extraordinary lead singer was performing downtown to a
standing room only audience … and that it might be wise that he come and see this for himself.

     When Zappa went to the club and watched the show, he saw a young talent sing, dance, play sax, flute and keyboards, in a manner that clearly made it appear that he was having
more fun than even the other patrons in the club.

     After two hours of observing and listening to this young man and his very disciplined band of musicians, he introduced himself as Frank Zappa, and the young man introduced
himself as Napoleon Murphy Brock. The next words out of Zappa’s mouth were, “You are my new lead vocalist.” (Check napol

eonmbrock.com – INTERVIEWS - for more details of these conversations.)
     The rest is history, as these releases attest to:

APOSTROPHE          ROXY & ELSEWHERE          ONE SIZE FITS ALL            BONGO FURY
YOU CAN’T DO THAT ON STAGE ANYMORE – LIVE IN HELSINKI FINLAND       
THE DUB ROOM SPECIAL (DVD)            A TOKEN OF HIS EXTREME (DVD)
SHEIK YERBOUTI (All Background Parts)            THE EVIL PRINCE (From “THINGFISH)
Grammy Award Winning Performance ZAPPA PLAYS ZAPPA (DVD-2006)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Napoleon_Murphy_Brock


 

PLEDGE FORM FOR PRE-ORDERING 
“THIS IS WHAT FRANK ZAPPA HEARD – JUST IN CASE YOU WERE WONDERING”

PLEASE SEND NO MONEY:
This is a form for pre-ordering this historic CD. IF YOU PRE-ORDER, THERE WILL BE NO SHIPPING CHARGE.

(The CD will be autographed upon request.)
This was taped on TEAC 4 Track Reel to Reel on August 8th, 1973 and will be released in December 2009. This CD performance has been digitally enhanced will put you at the next table to where Frank was sitting, and you will experience what Frank Zappa experienced and what later was described as “the audition of a lifetime”.

Just fill out the form below, and mail - or e-mail it - to the following address:   nmubrock@pacbell.net   or   napoleonmbrock.com
Or:
Napoleon Murphy Brock
 P.O. Box 817
San Jose, California 90187

NAME __________________________________
Number of CDs  @ 15 Euros each ________
STREET ADDRESS / CITY/STATE or COUNTRY   E-MAIL ADDRESS

Contact me:  info@drdot.com and put "Kristin/Seattle" in the subject line, thank you.

Hi, I’m Kristin. I was born in Waikiki, Hawaii, and raised in Washington State. Massage has always been a way of life in Hawaii, and being raised Hawaiian Style, it was always something that the children did for the elders. It was while working as an assistant to a chiropractor/Hawaiian Kahuna that I realized the gift that I hold in my hands. He was the one who told me, “I have the knack.”

I finished Massage school in 2002, and went on the road for a year selling concessions with a show. It was upon returning home to the Tacoma area that I seriously started practicing massage and there has been no turning back. I worked for 3 years in a Physical Therapy clinic perfecting my injury/rehabilitation massage. I am Nationally Certified and a member of the ABMP (Associated Bodywork and Massage Professionals). I am trained in many different modalities and pull them out of my “toolbox” as needed.

• Hot Stone
• Massage Cupping
• Reflexology
• Aromatherapy
• Structural Relief Therapy
• Deep Tissue Hawaiian Lomi Lomi
• Manual Lymphatic Drainage
• Reiki Master/Teacher

I celebrated my "30th" birthday (again :) at Tonic in NYC KARAOKE!! (me, Chrissi, Catherine W. and Jonesy, not pictured, too)

 Santiego, from "hand of god" Argentina. He is a drummer in a rock band, he hung with us for a while. Pretty dude eh?

So NYC is cold again. We were lucky and had a couple SUPER warm days, but the leg warmers went back on today, omfg. FREEZIN'. I went for my MRI the other day of left knee and will go Monday to ORTHO Doc to have him analyze it and tell me which surgery I will need. NOT looking forward to that!

So I had to buy a new Mac, the latest one they have, Snow Leopard program, goes SUPER FAST, it's like butter!! Still keeping old one though, one can never have too many Mac Book Pros!! They truly are the best. I bought a new one as the old one had a keyboard issue and I THOUGHT I would have to go without it for a week but APPLE called 18 hours after I dropped off old one for repairs saying it was ready for pick up. DAM those folks are good. But as I said, this new one is miles faster. I JUST need to learn how to use iMovies and I will be happy. 

Been spending LOTS of time with Jasmine since I have been back and that is always a good thing. So strange, when I am in Berlin I feel at home there and don't want to leave. Same thing happens when I am here in NYC. BUT then my heart yearns to live in England, it always has and always will. I know it is expensive and dangerous too, but I just love England. Perhaps the grass is always greener and I wouldn't like it if I lived there. Last time I massaged Simon Cowell, it was in Birmingham and I told him I would love to just move there and stay and he freaked out and said "Good Lord Dot, not there, London is the place for you!". ha. 

 "Chasing Amy" is on TV. Great movie. This film made my ex EXTREMELY uncomfortable, guess it hit too close to home (about a guy dating a HOT chick and his best friend being bitchy and trying to break them up, turns out his friend is secretly in love with him) heh heh.

NYC is still fun and there is karaoke every single night in more than one place but I don't like to go out more than once a week (if that). Dealing with drunks is just annoying. Got a Spinning bike and treadmill at my flat now and weights (who needs to join a gym?). Plus I have more than enough writing to do. At the end of the day (which for me is around 5 or 6 am) I am so exhausted from answering emails that I never get around to writing the books I want to write (& Blog) and have to REALLY dig deep to find the time to write my sex columns (I LOVE helping folks but turning all the Q & A's into a tidy column is not as easy as you may think).

 Trying out something new- writing this while on new spin bike- working ok so far. Just hate sitting still for too long, which is a problem as most of my work is done online coordinating massages and answering people's love/relationship/sex questions. LOTS of time on ass in front of computer and I hate it. 

 Gota go, sweating is NOT good for the new Mac.. by the way, how HOT is Madonna lately? SCHWING! You go girl!!

x

ps. Follow me on twitter, I write on there much more often than here as I can do so anywhere:

http://twitter.com/dr_dot

 Email me at:  info@drdot.com and put "Emorvula/Munich"in subject line please :)

My name is Emorvula but everybody calls me Morvi. I did my exam in medical massages 24 years ago. Since then I never stopped learning new massage techniques. My two lovely kids were very often my inspiration to go and on. Some interesting classes of the past were for example Footreflex-Segment-Dorntherapy, Lymphdrainage, Deep Tissue, Hot Stone, Ayurveda, Aromatherapy- or Thai-massage.

My signature massage is a customized mix out of all these techniques, sometimes moor powerful, sometimes softer, just as the clients need is. My clients are mostly sportsman like football player, mountain-bikers, marathonians, triathletes or the guests of the five star hotels I am working at.

Besides giving massages with my loving hands I teach interested people in reflexology massages at the adult education center.

 ...no one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun...

To stave off effects of economic crisis, one bordello gives bikers a discount

updated 10:38 a.m. ET Oct. 16, 2009

BERLIN - Part of Berlin's red-light scene is going green.

One bordello, hoping to stave off falling demand in the economic crisis, has begun offering discounts to customers who pedal bicycles to the door.

"It's very difficult to find parking around here, and this option is better for our environment," said Thomas Goetz, who owns the brothel Maison d'Envie, or House of Desire.

Local residents in Prenzlauer Berg — a part of former East Berlin now home to scores of trendy boutiques, restaurants and clubs — had staunchly supported the Green party in recent elections and have welcomed the bordello's offer to emphasize the environment.

Brothels suffering
The bordellos in the capital of Germany, where prostitution is legal, have seen business suffer with the global financial crisis. Patrons have become more frugal, and there are fewer potential customers coming to the city for business trips and conferences.

But Maison d'Envie has seen its business begin to return since it began offering the 5-euro ($7.50) discount in July, Goetz said.

To qualify, customers must show the receptionist either a bicycle padlock key or proof they used public transit to get to the neighborhood. That knocks the price for 45 minutes in a room, for example, to 65 euros from 70 euros.

Those who arrive on foot, however, are out of luck.

"We haven't found a way for people to prove they have walked here," Goetz explained.

Facebook outage silences 150,000 users

by Brennon Slattery, PC World

Editor’s Note: The following article is reprinted from the Today @ PC World blog at PCWorld.com.

For the past week and a half, several thousand Facebook users were unable to access their accounts because of a technical issue with a server. The outage silenced .05 percent of Facebook users, or 150,000 people, which may not seem like that many, considering that Facebook now has over 300 million users. But if this could happen to even a small percentage, what’s to say it couldn’t happen again to even more users of the world’s largest social networking site?

The affected Facebook users are slowly seeing their accounts restored, though some profile data may have been lost. Facebook itself was silent on the matter until Monday, when it gave CNET the skinny, saying the issue was caused by “a technical issue with a single database.” Facebook also iterated that it had nothing to with “hackers or other malicious activity.”

Facebook spokeswoman Brandee Barker gave a boilerplate statement that included the usual apologies and assurances that the outage would be repaired as soon as possible. “Our engineering team has worked around the clock, and as of [October 12], all of these users should begin to regain access to their Facebook accounts.”

According to CNET, affected users also received this message: “You may not have been able to access your account over the last several days. We’re sorry for this inconvenience; an extended technical issue affected a small number of Facebook accounts, including yours. We have done our best to restore your account to its most recent state, but some data and settings may not be current. In order to be cautious, we defaulted some of your privacy settings to their most restrictive settings. You may wish to review your privacy settings and reset them.” As you see, Facebook was not specific as to what “some data and settings” actually includes.

It doesn’t sound as though the data and update loss were catastrophic or anything more than just annoying. However, the outage highlights the potential fragility of Facebook. If one server fail can affect 150,000 people, what would happen if three servers crashed? Paranoid thoughts, perhaps, but as Facebook grows and becomes more integrated with ordinary people’s lives and with businesses and corporations, the security of the site becomes a public matter of great importance.

That this server failure wasn't widely reported is also distressing. Facebook should be more upfront with its technical difficulties and, in light of this incident, once again bolster security measures not only to decrease the likelihood of reoccurrence, but also to keep the more crucial meat of people’s profiles away from exposure.

A friend of mine on facebook made a group to try and help get my facebook page back. I spent DAYS uploading all the videos and pictures and adding my friends, naturally I can start a new page but I want my old one back. If you have a minute, please join this group:

http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=149011284175

I have sent countless emails to facebook and they have not answered one email so far. When I try to sign into my page is says this:

"Your account has been disabled for persistent and rapid use of a certain feature. Unfortunately, for security reasons, we will not be able to further explain these limits."

what the HELL does that mean? What did I do wrong? They never warned me, emailed me, answered me, nothing. Totally rude way of running a web site. 

boooo hisssss. 

:(

http://gizmodo.com/5382627/boy-flies-away-uncontrollably-in-homemade-flying-saucer

Book me at info@drdot.com and put "Petra/Sweden" in the subject line please. 

Hejsan! My name is Petra, and I am born and raised in Sweden but lived in USA (mostly California) for 17 years, and what first brought me to California was my love for music. I did work in the music biz for a while, meeting many wonderful people.

After a car accident in 2002, I had to go to a chiropractor and get massage therapy since I had severe pain in my left shoulder and arm. I got completely healed and it struck me how happy all the clients were when they left the clinic, and I thought to myself - that’s what I want to do, I want to have a job that makes people happy! So I took my training in 2003 in California and has worked as a massage therapist ever since. I am working both with private clients and going out to companies.

I strongly believe in the body-mind connection, so I try to see the whole picture when working with my clients, and use a very intuitive style wether  the client wants a deep treatment for specific problems or just a relaxing moment. I also work with essential oils, since they can often enhance the healing effects of the massage.

The massages I offer are, Deep tissue, Swedish, Aroma, Honey healer, and my favourite - Hot Stone massage.

Working with Dr. Dot is the perfect way to combine two of my favourite things - music and helping people!

To reach me, email me at: info@drdot.com and put "Brie/Philly" in the subject line :)

Brie, originally from Connecticut, moved to Philadelphia to attend the University of the Arts, where she received a B.F.A. in Dance in 2005. She has also trained at the Alvin Ailey School, and the Martha Graham School.

Brie has since redirected the knowledge she gained from studying dance into the wellness and fitness industry.

In 2006 Brie graduated at the top of her class from the National Massage Therapy Institute in Philadelphia. Along with being a board certified massage therapist, she is also a certified personal trainer, yoga, and Pilates instructor. 

Brie loves her work and finds it very rewarding. She is exited to be a part of the Doctor Dot team and looks forward to working with you.

She is available to work in Pennsylvania, Connecticut, and New Jersey.

 Please feel free to email me your questions. I answer every email personally. Don't worry, I always change the names around, so no one will know your questions or secrets. Dr. Dot drdot@drdot.com

Q.

  I'm married for 5 years; we've been together for about 15. Two  kids, happy. The thing is that I don't like sex.

I could literally go for the rest of my life without it and be fine with that. For a while I thought it was just him that I wasn't
 attracted to, but even in between our dating, I was like that with EVERY guy.
I'm not a lesbian; women don’t turn me on that way. I get turned on by men,
but don't like sex. Goes back to Endometriosis and pain I had a hysterectomy at 28,
 but still don’t like sex. I love and adore my husband. He's sexy but due to my lack of sex drive, our sex life is slacking.

I haven't yet said anything to him, but I feel bad about it and wouldn't be completely objected to him
sleeping with someone else just to get that part of him satisfied. In that past I would
have NEVER dreamed of oral sex, but over the past year or two, I've been doing it occasionally
just to get out of having sex. Sure, I have to stop every few seconds to stop myself
from gagging or throwing up. But I still do it. Also, I still refuse to receive it.
This CAN'T be normal?"
Honest Housewife

A.

I know a few women like this. I am not saying it’s normal, but it's not rare either.
 Remember Bill and Hilary? You have two kids already and are not opposed to him getting his jollies elsewhere, so you know what you like and what you don't like.
However, if he does have sex with others, there may be a chance he’ll love the sex, gets used to it again, and may end up changing waterfalls, so to speak. MANY women fuck/suck their men just to shut them up (which is sad ) so you’re not alone. Perhaps I am a freak but I think knowing you HAVE to do it, is a turn off, hence marriage can be a catch 22 situation. You marry for love, but the pressure of routine kills the passion. It's best to be honest with yourself and your partner and put all of your cards on the table and see what he says.
It may even make you wet; being completely honest, to the point where you
just don't give a fuck about the consequences, can be so enlightening, that it's a turn
on. Who knows, it may just flip your switch back on.



Q.
My penis is 1 inch when floppy; 2 when hard. I’m only 14 and I have heard it
 will grow when you get older but it has been this way since my balls have dropped.
 I was about to get a blow job; when I pulled my pants down, she laughed and told
 the whole school. I really want it to grow to at least average size so that I
won't have to be afraid to show it off when I am asked to. Help.
The Angry Inch

A.
You have to accept that you’ll never have a monster cock, but you can make it a tad
bigger by using it as much as you can, be it by wanking or screwing. Like I’ve
said in the past, it’s similar to any other muscle; the more you exercise
it, the stronger (and bigger) it will grow. You should learn to be an expert
at giving foot massages and licking pussy, that will be your secret weapon. Making
the ladies laugh will also help them over look any "short" comings you have. Asian
girls have the tightest pussies (um, I’ve been told) so maybe gravitate towards them,
 they may even think of your tiny tool as hard to handle. Ps. Does your mom know you read my column?





Q.
 I have been married for 13 years.  In the beginning, as with most couples,
sex was frequent and fulfilling.  Frequency diminished over the years, yet it
was always fulfilling. 3 years ago, during sex, my husband had a heart attack.
An ambulance rushed him to the hospital.  That was the last time we had sex.
I have tried to be understanding and thankful he is still alive, yet I need
to have sex.  He claims that all sexual desire is now gone.  I do realize he is frightened
about what happened, but how can  someone totally lose ALL desire?  He definitely
doesn’t have a girlfriend, nor masturbate.
I suggested that we just fool around and not have sex.  I have made
offers to have a girlfriend join us, one of his biggest fantasies.  I have even
masturbated when we go to bed, trying to "guilt" him into touching me. 
To no avail. My sex drive is like that of a 17 year old boy.  I masturbate, at least,
twice a day.  I’m dying here.  How can I help him regain sexual desire?

Camarillo Brillo

A.
Dr. Phil and Ophra would probably tell you do drag him to an expensive marriage
counselor that would take ages and may or may not work but would certainly take
a private, sensitive subject and make it even more sensitive & turn a passionate,
spontaneous ritual into an annoying chore for him. How about going away for the
weekend, camping or staying at a hotel and just go down on him in the shower.
I think your bedroom and that bed will always remind him of almost dying in your
pussy. You need to change the surroundings before even attempting to shag him again.
If none of that works, come right out and tell him you need sex and he should
either fuck you or give you permission to fuck someone else (he can watch?) or
you may end up cheating without his knowledge or leaving him all together. A hungry
pussy should never go to waste.
Ps. maybe you and the “Honest Housewife” should
trade spouses every weekend.

Q.

 I have been here in NYC for 4 years and am like many others, not from here originally.
 However, at 36,  I am older than the average new immigrant.  I am also black,
well-educated and traveled, have good social skills and am employed.  (Read, "not of the young and tragically hip")

  In the last 3 years, I have had plenty of sex, and a couple of long-term lovers with whom I have enjoyed more than time in bed.
 But, once I decided I wanted to look for more, my search has yielded nothing. I haven't yet met anyone with whom I am mutually
attracted and who also has an interest in a long-term relationship.  I am not too picky: cute, smart, funny, mature, and sexually confident
can't be too much to ask for someone in my age group, right?

 I do the dating sites regularly, meet people constantly, and can even count a number of my former dates among my pool of friends.
 But in the last month alone, the number of married or partnered men who answer my ad suggesting an affair has been depressing.
(I'm not a moralist about it, just not interested.)  And the number of single people I meet who believe asking for a 2nd date 3
 weeks after the first is staggering. (And, just for clarification, those are not sex dates.)
I am tired of being single! I want a partner!  I have been reading your column faithfully, and it seems that your overall assertion is
 that Manhattan is not the place for partner-minded people.
 Surely there are strategies or gathering sites for we similarly afflicted people even in the city of the Swingin' Singles?
Or should I seriously consider a(nother) move?

Somebody to Love, Sadie

A.

Big cities all have one thing in common:
The masses of people/oportunities make it difficult to concentrate on just one person; one relationship. It's easier in the suburbs
 and country to find a partner to settle down with, simply because there are less people to choose from and less going on.
 Big cities like NYC are crawling with sexy young singles and although it's an aphrodisiac, it can also be torture for
 monogamous minded peeps.  Unless you are willing
to move to a small town and start over, I suggest placing ads and being VERY specific  about your needs.
I placed an ad for a girlfriend a few years ago, just for fun. I wrote it for her as she was too shy.
I was really blatant in the ad, stating "Sexy, Single woman wants generous, nonsmoking, relationship
minded man. Send pics if you want a reply". She got over 50 replies and on the 3rd date she met her current husband/father
of their child. They are still together and that was 9 years ago. There IS love in Manhattan; there's just too much of it.
 You have to be more aggressive when courting a long term love here as the hetero men have the advantage of being outnumbered
 by women (and gay males) two times over, which leaves the single women very few single, straight men to choose from.
 So, either be more specific in your ads, turn “bi” to increase your chances or stop looking all together, as if you've given up;
 and love may sneak up on you (a watched pot never boils) or move to a smaller city, one where meeting people is a
 bit easier as Nyc, the city of fun,
will never change, it loves to be "single, but dating".



Q.

I am currently seeing this 28 year old - I'm 31.  It's been 9 months.  I know all his friends, his parents,
and he wants to see me, calls, etc..
We have had a few dramas - what beauties - but in the end we worked thru it and we keep moving forward.
We are both fireballs and a little stubborn - him more than me, but he is patient and forgiving. We are both 'catches'.
 The problem: he is not verbal at all - but when I mention it, he does try to correct it. There is very little talk of future.
 I asked him over dinner if he saw me in his future and he said “yes”, and that he “doesn't waste time”.
Is the non-verbal thing ok, if he is showing in other ways? Should I stay in this and keep flowing or change
 it by breaking up? Part of me thinks maybe he'll never be ready.

Ms. Stay or go




A.

You asked a question I would personally never, ever ask a man: "do you see us sharing a future?". That is a waste of breath
and shows them you are insecure and aiming at putting pressure on them. He said "yes, I don't waste time". This should have
made you feel really confident, but you are still questioning the relationship. You seem to be looking for a way out,
 in my opinion. Love doesn't come with insurance and all we have is today. You can not ensure a future with anyone.
You can get hit by a car; he could die of cancer. Just chill and enjoy the present with
this man who seems to really love you (you met his parents, friends, he verbalized seeing you in his future).
So what he isn't verbal? If you want verbal, date a woman.

 

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It was such a BLAST hanging out with the Happy Mondays again. Shaun is the sweetest artist ever. On their night off in NYC we went out to karaoke (my idea :) and Shaun sang "Ring of Fire" with me (he wanted to do Dean Martin -Memories.. but DJ didn't have it, AND Frank Sinatra "Something Stupid" with me, but again, didn't have it). So he and I did Ring of Fire together and we did not do it justice, I have to say. haha,  BUT it was fun sucking at a song with him. hahaha. He only did it cause I pleaded for him to do it, so don't think he is a karaoke fan, he is just up for a good laugh and that's why everyone loves Shaun. 

Shaun Ryder ^ me and tour manager John at Nevada Smith's Irish bar 

The man has it ^  Hard to describe, but he is so charming it's unreal.  And he will make you laugh non-stop as well. Swoon.

Chrissi came along and belted out several tunes too. Jonesy was there too but no pics of him :(

Andy, the Smiths guitarists (good mate of Shaun's) was also in tow. (he did NOT sing karaoke :)

Some soul sista's wanted in on the picture action 

Fat Bottomed girls you make the rockin' world go round! (to the far right is Olay, mate of Andy's)

 The night of the show I was not working massages, just hanging out and raising hell. FUN!!

 John (tour manager) and I backstage at the Roseland Ballroom

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I am guessing this is the picture that made someone flag me:

I think it's funny, but I guess it is too NUDE for Facebook?

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